Natural, Gentle, Pro Choice Birth

Homebirth, natural birth, gentle birth,hospital birth.

Many definitions to accompany each words. 

I'm sure u can google it up anytime anywhere. So i am not going to elaborate them here.

The aim is provide mothers with the choice of natural, spirit-uplifting birth. Choice to deliver the baby, in a safe, peaceful, reliable, condition. Of course we like that don't we?

Birth in hospital does not mean it is not natural, nor gentle.

And birthing at home does not mean it is gentle either, if the mother or father or the assistant does not have any medical professional knowledge. Without knowledge and expertise, danger is the correct word.
And stop comparing to those safely delivered in perkampungan orang asli. Their way of living itself is different. When making comparison, u have to have similar sets of condition. One cannot simply compare between an apple with a mango. or a bee with a fly. Or men vs women. 

Ultimately, despite our choice of baby delivery, our goal is.. to delivery the baby safely. 

I would like that. and im sure you too. 

We are mothers. Mothers are natural protectors. And provider.

We want the best for our child. Only the best. 2nd option is not in the dictionary. 

So, yes, i get your anxiety of providing the best. 

But, with what is happening in the gentle birth society nowadays, i am questioning, 

your anxiety to give the best to..whom?

I don't agree with some people condemning the non-gentleness of delivering in hospitals.

I, myself have given birth in the hospital- 2 times. In my case, it was private hospital. I did not choose governement simply because it is quite far from my home and i needed Hub to be in. 

I wanted to experience the birth with him, and i found my strength just with his presence. 

(of course, Allah gave me every strength that i had)

I am blessed with a wonderful experience (minus the excruciating pain), and i chose not to have epidural and the doctor respected that. I wanted to feel the pain (gila) so i could appreciate Allah's gifts better. But, the option of having is always open, just in case i bailed out. Thankfully I didnt!

But, are we right to condemn those who chose epidural because their fear of pain?

no.

Are we right to condemn those who prefer to go un-natural way?

no.

Pahala dihitung bukan based on the painkiller that you choose to take. Or the most natural method you choose for delivery of your baby. If the baby dies due to your negligence, then.. how? 

Back to the agenda carried our by these gentlebirth society, it's all about choices. 

So, should we condemn those who choose to take the opposite direction than ours?

if that's so, then that is not a Pro Choice after all.

To berserah to Allah, is of course of an obligation as a Muslim. 

But to talk about redha and tawakal without having to put any effort, is that right then?

And to choose this area of giving in, of all other aspects of life, isnt that a tad too..selfish?

We are playing with another life, from our womb. Allah's precous gift. 

I am pro natural. 

I dont like to waste.

I'm a pharmacist (by degree) but i hate taking meds. 

I'm not against herbs supplement, but please give me evidence based literature. 

I hate makeup. expect for lipbalm. i go organic for my babies. 

I like to recycle. or donate. Whichever fits in.

I hate MSG and my babies cannot consume them. at all.

I breastfeed them exclusively. 

I am starting to grow my own veges. (starting small, aiming big)

See. there are a lot of other natural ways of living naturally.

If you cannot even seggregate your own rubbish for the sake of the environment, please dont talk about natural birth.  (i still fail in this seggregation thingie)

My point is, having knowledge helps u in making a better decision for yourself or the people around you. I know the pros and cons of pitocin and epidural. And due to my understanding and judgement (as a pharmacy degree holder), I can refuse or follow the recommendations given by my doctor on that particular time. That particular time when anything is possible.

Because, at that time of delivery, as normal as you want it to be, but when Allah says Kun Fa Ya Kun, things will happens. It may be what we have expected, or the other way around.

I pity KKM's staff who are tormented, ridiculed. They are treated like the bad guys, when all they want to do is to educate and save lives. If they are in it for the money, they would not be there.

But then again, benda yang baik memang banyak cabarannya.

Precautions. 

Look at your baby's bathtub. underneath it (Ikea's), it written it multiple languages on Precaution. the danger of the tub, etc. It is a reminder that is placed to parents,in case they forgot. 

Humans are forgetful, are we not?

I like to take precautions in whatever i do.

When i wanted to quit my goverment job, i calculated the risk. Do the math.

When i wanted to go Pro breastfeed and breastmilk, I read a lot and a lot. I dont read from Shaklees' milk booster pages or testimonies from yada yada. but i read a lot of journals. Those with studies and statistcis. We have to remember, people will say whatever they wanna say. Esepcially when one can be benefited from something. No one works for free. This is the reality. 

So, get your sources right.  If you have doubts, ask from the expertise.

Go to ilmiah readings. Books. journals. Look at the writer. Are they working for someone, somewhere?

When i was choosing the hospital for the birth of my babies, I read and read a lot on interventions, preferences, safety, distance, expertise, etc. 

I do not choose blindly, or just because.

I needed to understand the policy of the hospitals and the doctor's preferences. 

You can listen to people's comments, but go back and study. Study from reliable sources. 

And more importantly, non-bias.

If you are contemplating between a Honda or a Toyota, or a Tomee Tippee vx Avent, look at unbias resources. Takkan you tanya Toyota mana lagi bagus? jawapan of course Toyota. ;) t

Look for trusted unbias, reliable sources. Those with facts and statistics. 

Words are cheap.

havent' u heard of Marketing?